One of my nightmares: the lack of confidence

I wasn't sure what the topic for today's blog post would be, but suddenly I remembered one of my nightmares: the lack of confidence. However, I didn't know how to approach it. That's why I was interested in the perspectives that ChatGPT would offer. So, I asked it about the importance of confidence and the possible reasons behind its lack. Here is a summary of what we've been talking about:

Confidence can be a real challenge, especially when fear of change or the unknown creeps in. I know that feeling all too well—the anxiety that hits when a new day starts, leaving my mind blank and making it hard to even begin. It’s like this wall of self-doubt that stops me from taking action, and the fear of what’s ahead can keep me stuck. The tricky part is that often, I don’t even realize I’m worrying about the future in the moment. It’s like my mind just spirals into overthinking without me noticing, and before I know it, I’m paralyzed by the uncertainty.

I've tried to take breaks to recharge, but instead of helping, they often turn into distractions that just make me feel worse about wasting time. What I’ve realized, though, is that building confidence is a process. It’s not about being perfect right away; it’s about recognizing the small steps and celebrating the progress—even if it’s tiny. Shifting my mindset to see tasks as opportunities to grow, rather than tests of my ability, helps take some pressure off. The hardest part for me is letting go of the constant worry about the future and focusing on what I can control today. It’s all about trying to be present and taking action even when I feel uncertain.

To overcome uncertainty, we can focus on what we can control right now. This might mean taking small steps or setting achievable goals. It’s important to accept that uncertainty is part of growth —none of us have everything figured out, and that’s okay. Rather than waiting for the “perfect moment” to take action, we can start, even if it's imperfect. Moving forward, no matter how small, is better than staying stuck.

Another thing is to reframe mistakes as learning opportunities instead of failures. This shift in perspective helps us let go of the fear of getting things wrong. Practicing mindfulness can help ground us in the present, calming our tendency to overthink the future. Building confidence happens through small wins, no matter how minor they seem —they remind us that we’re making progress, even if it feels slow.

Journaling (or talking about it with someone) can also be really helpful. By writing down our thoughts, we can gain some clarity and release the mental clutter. And, most importantly, we need to practice self-compassion. It's okay not to have everything figured out right now. By embracing uncertainty, we can navigate it with more confidence and a little less anxiety.

So, even though I still struggle with confidence and anxiety, I’m learning that growth happens little by little, even when the fear feels overwhelming, and that I did incredibly things in the past, why would this time be different?